It’s June, “Pride Month”—for LGBTQ, but not for transsexuals if we don’t agree to hide our sexuality.
It’s a paradox. LGBTQ who rightly insist that society accept them with their difference are not extending that acceptance or even tolerance to transsexualism unless we say we’re transgender.
It’s a culture of secrecy about trans person sexuality. In the LGBTQ movement, the T only means “transgender,” not also “transsexual” which is included by implication with gender, not even “trans person.”
A common scenario: I’m friendly in general, glad to see people, hoping to make friends…then they realize I’m not June Cleaver and ask, “Are you transgender?” I smile and say, “No, I’m transsexual.” Suddenly their light of friendship fades. Defensive assumptions are made that I think I’m superior to others, that I don’t like them somehow, that I’m not compassionate for the plight of transgenders or that I’m hostile to them. They distance. I don’t get invited to events and things I then later say or do are mis-interpreted as not okay, sometimes I’m threatened—rather like some muggles have done to me just for being a trans person.
The anti-trans-physical-sex transgender paradigm is enforced in mis-guided compassion for transgenders’ request for privacy. I’m expected to hide my sexuality because others want to hide theirs, and if I don’t, I’m ousted. People don’t seem to mind that it slams me.
My husband, Joe, was a conservative Republican Christian Defense Dept. engineer; I was a liberal Democrat Jewish transsexual. Respect, liking, even loving someone with a different view is part of my nature.
I have to have their view or I’m disliked?
How is that respect with difference?
How is that any different from a straight person who dislikes a gay person?
How is that any different from someone of one religion or race who may not like another for such a difference?
This is bias, prejudice, and it’s as ugly for people to press on me as it is for other, more recognized minorities: liberal people who don’t like conservative people; white people who don’t like black people; religions who don’t like each other; transgenders who don’t like transsexuals unless we say we’re also transgender.
I am transsexual. I am okay as such. I need acceptance for my own salient issues.
I need to exist.