In October of 2019, I was asked by a major non-profit organization to clarify the difference between transsexualism and transgenderism. The below is taken from my paper to them, sanitized for their anonymity.

This is information you will not get from gender advocate sites, is detailed, with references below.

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The gender-not-sex social movement, the “transgender” paradigm, demeans transsexualism, says it’s offensive to say what we primarily need, usually from birth: to be the other sex.

Society prefers a binary view of sex-and-gender, is offended when they’re treated as different things. Society is willing to ignore the opposite sex-related issues of transsexualism vs. transgenderism, and hurt people such as me, in order to cling to the view of sex and gender as one, basic thing.

But when millions of people want to change one thing yet not another thing, I think those are two different things. Someone may change gender, yet if they don’t want the genitalia of the other sex, they don’t want to be the other sex.

At odds are two specific sex issues the “transgender” social movement stresses not to mention as offensive, which are the opposite in transsexualism vs. transgenderism:

  1. the need to be a physical sex, and
  2. the needed sexual response as a sex.

A FEW EXAMPLES OF T SEX NEGATIVITY

  • Transsexual with pathological connotations (Brooks, 2017; Gupta et al, 2016);
  • Transsexual as pejorative (TSER, 2019; UNOmaha, 2019);
  • SRS downplayed, a “small part of transition”; don’t say pre- or post-op (GLAAD, 2019);
  • “Transgender” mustn’t be a noun but “transsexual” can be (APA, 2010); the American Psychological Assn. said that; I was shocked at the blatant inequality;
  • “Transsexual” as transgender person who may never want to be the other sex (APA, 2010);
  • “Cissexual” noted as real but “cisgender” used for both (Cava, 2016);
  • “Sex identity” asserted as real per physical sex (Kotula, 2002, Diamond, 2002) yet “gender identity” used by most, instead;
  • Cait Jenner saying don’t ask about surgery (ABC News, 2017; TMZ, 2017),
  • Jenner’s book using “transgender” 55 times yet “transsexual” 0 times (2017);
  • Media guide uses “transgender” 47 times and “transsexual” 0, “gender” 70 times and “sex” 11 but only as birth sex in the context of gender change or as orientation (HRC, 2019);
  • Says many trans people do not identify as transsexual and prefer transgender (GLAAD, 2019), but it does not include the reverse which is also true;
  • Problems I’ve seen at your organization (below).

To appear more palatable, a sex-minimized version of transsexualism is quasi-incorporated:

  • “Transsexual is transgender with a surgery” implies we’re basically the same, some with surgery, which only works if sex is suppressed. The paradigm implication is that the need to be the other sex moves with a change in gender, but it usually doesn’t. We have opposite sexualities, stated above, and phenomena are supposed to be distinct by significant difference.
  • “Not everyone can afford surgery.” Misleading. Usually SRS is eschewed when sexuality is not cross. SRS if desired can usually be obtained in a variety of ways (see example below).
  • “Transgender is needing to be a gender different from the sex of birth…” is about gender change, transgenderism; it is not transsexualism, which would read “transsexual is needing to be the other sex from the sex of birth.”

How would you like to live with that on your chest for 20 years, such as people like me and I have? That thing being suppressed is me, those issues minimized, morphed or omitted are mine. It is cruel to define me with a social movement that downplays core issues of my being.

YET “TRANSSEXUAL” IS STILL USED

Suppression of these T sex issues has been going on for a generation, so “gender” is common, yet in spite of obfuscation, subterfuge and radical dirty tricks (Dreger, 2008, 2015), transsexual references remain because there are people like me who cry for inclusion; a few examples:

  • “…transsexual…has recently been used to flag opposition to the politics of transgender. The term trans has recently been deployed because of worries that transgender has failed to be sufficiently broad. I will use the expression trans as a means to preserve neutrality on the politics surrounding certain transsexual/transgender debates” (Bettcher, 2015).
  • “These internationally accepted guidelines are designed to promote the health and welfare of transgender, transsexual and gender variant persons…” and “…the lives of transgender and transsexual people…” (WPATH, 2019).
  • Harvard includes “transsexual” in student resources (Harvard, 2019).
  • Yale use of “transsexual” in request for Connecticut to alter public bathroom laws (Civil Rights Litigation Clearing House, 2018).
  • MIT also includes “transsexual” in its statement of inclusion (MIT, 2019).
  • Duke includes “transsexual” and “sex” as well as “gender” (Duke U., 2019).
  • Caltech includes transsexualism in its gender and sexuality terminology (Caltech, 2015).
  • Tulane School of Medicine includes “transsexual” (Tulane, 2019).
  • Intersex Society of North America uses “transgender or transsexual” (ISNA, 2019). Thank you.

WHY T SEX IS MINIMIZED IN FAVOR OF GENDER

The transgender paradigm didn’t happen in a vacuum. I was involved. This is how it went:

1. In the 20th century, transsexualism, need to be the other sex, got media traction (Benjamin, 1977; Conn, 1974; Hunt, 1978; Jorgensen, 1967; Morris, 1974; Richards, 1984).

2. Also in the 20th century: transgenderism, the largest open group of trans people by far. “Gender” meant more the other role in society, not sex. Society did not accept the worthy need to be another gender while not wanting to also be the other physical sex (Prince, 1971, 1997).

3. Society prefers a binaristic, conflated sex and gender, seen as part of the same thing, believed a fact: man is male; woman is female. Society doesn’t really see how transgender living treats sex and gender as two different things, partly because of its preference and the cover-up of #4.

4. Transgenderism, #2, wanted to open, so more in the 21st century, they switched advocacy to a conflated sex and gender as in #3—while at the same time suppressing sex issues, implying any transgender person may also want “GRS,” hoping you won’t know, saying it’s offensive to ask.

“GENDER” IS BEING USED DIFFERENTLY

Sex and Gender are at the core of the TS / TG debate: Are they one thing, or two?

Most people “know” sex and gender are part of the same thing, as in #3 above—more than that, they want to believe it. It goes to personal identity as man or woman, male or female. Many even take it as a personal affront when the conflation is challenged. It is seen as a Fact, the Truth. To deny that is to deny reality. They see it every single day, highly correlated.

The problem is in applying S&G conflation to transgenderism, #2 above and 90%-ish of all open trans people (Ware, “Prevalence,” 2019). In transgenderism the correlation is inverse. Transgender living treats sex and gender as two different things. People usually skip over what I just said and cling to the conflation. That strength—of S&G conflation ideation—is being used by transgenderism in #4 to minimize rejection, but they actually treat sex and gender as different things. Clues are prevalence of non-SRS and that T sex issues are usually downplayed or omitted in the gender paradigm.  So…“the surgery”: Is it gender to an extreme; or is it about something else some people need as in the other sex?

People don’t want to hear this, but sex and gender actually are two different things. Even if you call them the same thing, even though all things are interconnected, biology is still not culture:

“Sex is a biological trait…gender is culturally and personally defined” (Stanford Medical / Conger, 2017).

“Historically, the terms ‘sex’ and ‘gender’ have been used interchangeably, but their uses are becoming increasingly distinct…” (Medical News Today / Newman, 2018).

“Gender refers to the socially constructed characteristics of women and men—such as norms, roles…varies from society to society…” (World Health Organization, 2019).

A TG “UMBRELLA” IS DECEPTIVE; “MAIN ISSUE” INCLUDES EVERYONE

Grouping by the commonality of gender change, #4, promotes a focus on gender in society, social denial of T sex issues, suppression of transsexualism, and prevents full and equal inclusion of the vast majority of trans people who do not wish to also be the other physical sex.

Grouping by a person’s main issues values all people by their real nature, brings T sex issues out of a harmful closet, and makes eventual full integration possible.

Because suppression of T sexuality is just as wrong as suppression of key issues for people of other sexualities, races, religions…T terms must be used by main issue to avoid obfuscation or subterfuge:

  • Transsexual: demonstrated goal to be the other sex, will honestly strive for SRS.
  • Transgender: demonstrated goal to be the other gender, usually will not have SRS. Where some do have SRS for secondary reasons, if sexuality does not later adjust, trouble may result.
  • Sex identity: identity of sex.
  • Gender identity: identity of gender.

“Transgender” for me is offensive as it suppresses my main issue, says the core of my being is not okay: “Transgender” degrades me. I value people who are transgender, but that is not me. I must be myself: I am not part of the transgender paradigm. By main issue, I’m transsexual, not transgender.

WHY THE TRANSGENDER PARADIGM AVOIDS T SEX ISSUES

The claim is “privacy,” but it’s not modesty. It’s fear of rejection. Transgender people want to live in the other gender role, but society doesn’t accept that with cis sexuality, so they hide it.

This is not the fault of transgender people. The blame rests with society for rejecting non-binary living.

WHAT CAN WE DO ABOUT IT

Accept transgender sexuality. Accept transsexual sexuality. Accept non-binary people.

Society started the problem, and society needs to fix it. Non-binary people are just people. The claim minority integration will ruin things is only for the prejudiced. Trans people are not evil, not wicked. We’re not going to ruin morality, wreck the American family or devalue the Constitution. Prejudice, bias, and bigotry ruin morality. Hating relatives ruins family. Inequality ruins the Constitution.

Stand with us and say we’re okay as we really are. Look prejudice in the eye and say, “You will not—not here,” and give people the confidence and tools they need to go out into society and be themselves, to succeed, perhaps even where societies are even more sex-negative. Please don’t say you accept us all as we are but that you don’t want to say it outright because it’s offensive. If you don’t say it, you don’t mean it—even if you do say it, you may not mean it, but you need to.

You are organization managers. Think: Figure out a way staff can accept non-binary people, and make it work.

Whomever you are, whatever you think you know about trans people—  If you advocate for the suppression or avoidance of T sexualities—  Why? How could you? Which side of the issue are you on? I’m trying to help you be more inclusive, part of the solution not the problem, that shows leadership in showing non-binary people how to succeed later in life, that cares about human dignity regardless of how many say not to.

CASE EXAMPLES

ME

From my first awareness, I always knew I needed to be female. It was never about clothes or role; it was about a need to actually be biologically female.

As a child in rural Kansas, I quickly learned to try to hide it. By age 7, I cried to God for help. Teenage years were a nightmare…and I never knew anything could be done. I escaped the Midwest by joining the Navy and landed at Ft. Meade. NSA, NSOC. Pattern recognition, digit span, data processing. There I learned about the possibility.

Los Angeles, 1981, age 23, during my sophomore year in college, I finally got it organized, alone, with no money, critical family far behind, no help other than what I could find, myself. The plan was simple; that part wasn’t hard: Get a job, keep taking night courses, save money.

I was in a panic by then. The 7 months of living in gender transition before a sexual transition would be allowed was the most painful, horrid time of my life. I was thankful for progress, but gender wasn’t the point. I was crying nightly, reading, trying to figure something out—unable to block out the terror of a sex I had that then seemed more disgustingly obvious. The company’s insurance paid for SRS, and I got it, immediately. Physical sex can’t really be changed, but SRS made life survivable.

Am I now supposed to be represented as though all that isn’t true, the same as a phenomenon that does not want to be the other sex, denoted by their main issue not mine?

I would have died living transgender. Being referred to as “transgender” is deeply hurtful, offensive.

TRANSGENDERISM IN TRANSITION

In contrast to a transition like Lara’s (just below) and mine, when transgenderism is the main issue, a gender transition provides what is needed. The person is happier, because that is the point.

LARA IN MOVIE “GIRL”

You can see an example of this contrast in the movie, “Girl,” on Netflix (Rotten Tomatoes, 2019), fiction, but inspired by the life of Nora Monsecour. Lara is teenage, in Belgium, in gender transition, unable to as yet make a sexual transition. Her therapist does not understand why she is so miserable: She’s living as a girl. He thinks in terms of the transgender paradigm, so he tries to inspire a happiness and sexuality that should result from transgenderism. Lara could not function that way—both her need to just BE herself and also her needed opposite sexual response were involved. Her therapist lost her, and she self-mutilated. Lara really needed a good therapist. Her needs were like mine, though I was 23 and could seek SRS. She needed her therapist to understand her issues and connect with her.

OTHER REASONS TO INCLUDE TRANSSEXUALISM AND ITS CORE CONCEPTS

CO-EXISTING WITH OPPOSITES

If I were of a minority religion asking to also be included, would I need to show how a larger religion is wrong? No. Yet that is expected of me.

I value transgender people—or intersex people, or muggles or Vulcans or Pandorans… I don’t have a gene for disliking someone because of an aspect of their being. Hell, my husband was a conservative Republican Christian 40 years older; I was a liberal Democrat Jewish transsexual—and we loved like “On Golden Pond” (1982). He was amazing, and he openly married me in front of his friends and family. In Joe’s elder years, I so strongly identified with Katharine Hepburn.

It is someone’s character that matters. Conflicting ideologies are certain in life. Must we eschew variation? Where is appreciation of the basic concept of valuing diversity as the richness of life?

HONESTY

The transgender paradigm is fundamentally dishonest when applying a sex-and-gender conflation, under an umbrella of “transgender,” to a phenomenon that treats them as two different things, “transgenderism”—and also when implying-without-saying the desire for a change of sex moves with a change in gender. The TP is not just a focus on gender; it’s also about obfuscating sex.

MEDICAL TREATMENT

“Pathological” references to transsexualism are a slur meant to reduce inclusion. But we transsexuals do need medical treatment. Need and medical treatment must align, where, if they don’t, disaster can result. Devaluing the fact that we need medical help maligns our phenomenon and us.

ACTUAL PHYSICAL SEX CHANGE

Actual sex cannot as yet be changed. I’ve done all medical science can do, but it’s not enough. I’m still not actually female. That is a hell I have to live with. Saying or implying my needs should not be spoken rubs salt in the wound.

One day, actual biologic sex will be changeable—as well as correcting cis-sex damage done to a person before change: chromosomes, brain affects, physiology, voice, endocrinology, stature, body proportion, the ability to sire or bear children…  And when that time comes, I hope people will remember that people like me have always been here, begging to be heard, crying our pain, asking at least to be included as we are…not to have our need to be the other sex, or needed sexual response as the other sex, minimized, demeaned, omitted.

RESEARCH

If social concepts are biased, and where suppression is intimidating, research is more easily biased (Dreger, 2008, 2015), truth bends to ideology.

EDUCATION

You are showing that the way to success is to deny problems and demand other people deny them, too, to hide T sexuality in the shadows. Not to face the problem. Not to socially embrace yourself and demand society also embrace you.

EQUALITY

How large does a minority need to be to be included? How great the pain of suppression? How can I ask someone who is deeply invested in a gender bias—who may have a non-cisgender child, be transgender herself, who can’t even speak my issues without faltering—for equality and recognition?

But I try. I’ve earned my wings in society. I’ve gone through hell for 60 years with this, struggling for acceptance the whole way, through changes in social values and social movements…to find that in this most recent generation, gender-deny-sex has taken over. Now I am less okay than ever.

IDENTITY

Even if it were believed that sex is not different from gender, that male is not different from female…I’m still here. I still exist. I’m still about the specific sex issues that we’re told are offensive to actually say (page 1). My head, my mind, my soul, my core…are all transsexual. I don’t mean to be. I never thought, “I want to be transsexual.” I don’t assert “transsexual” because I’m trying to achieve something. I assert it because it’s the only word that describes my need, my goal, to be the other sex.

We all need to learn to be ourselves, and that should also include me.

SOCIAL INTEGRATION

The non-binary nature of transgenderism is still rejected by society; it is being socially denied which limits integration—which suits people who don’t want them totally integrated—and the “beauty” of it for people who prefer binarism is that the paradigm actually demands denial.

Chief Justice Earl Warren Professor of Constitutional Law at NYU, Kenji Yoshino, tells us the hidden assault on our civil rights is ourselves (2006), and he’s right. In covering for our sexualities, we create many of our own problems (Ware, “Hiding T Sexualities,” 2019).

Imagine someone there. She’s young, maybe 20, has transitioned MtF and is now living there in the role of a woman. She needs to fit in, make friends, presents as congenial, yet inside she’s insecure because she’s new in role and she fears how others may feel about her cis sexuality.

Where a person may not choose to disclose, institutions must. You are not sharing what transgender sexuality is usually about and that it’s okay. You imply the path to success is to act like a problem isn’t there. But sex is still a major part of life. It finds a way to be important. You can’t hide trans person sexualities; they’re too basic to life: You need to make them okay to have.

For this young, transgender person, what may it be like for her when her need for love and sex begin to express, or if she would like to join some revealing activities like other women, etc. Let her deal with it on her own? After all, you played sex down as requested. A climate of sex negativity can leave the young lady vulnerable to gossip, public humiliations or hate crimes.

In a culture of sex-negativity,

  • If they can’t say it they can’t show it, so self-segregation can result away from jobs or areas of life where genitalia could matter, such as those with revealing locker rooms, medicals or costuming.
  • Gossip, cruelty or even hate crimes can be enabled as about something not okay and may not be reported as it could disclose secrets.
  • Love and sex can be even harder to find, when implying a sexuality that is opposite reality.
  • Decades-long distancing can result in alienation, loneliness, depression, or worse, and
  • It can be harder to unlearn society’s message we’re not okay when we realize, later, that we’ve been agreeing to downplay a major part of ourselves to please prejudiced people.

EXAMPLES:  SEX NEGATIVE EXPERIENCES

(Many website screen shots were provided in this block, with URLs showing, of a clear pro-gender / anti-sex bias, transsexualism omitted…)

CAN I EVEN BE SPOKEN

This last year, while talking with an official about inclusion of T sex issues, I was told I was in denial, presumably about the fact that I really did make a gender transition. Their view was sex-and-gender conflated, a gender umbrella for trans people, not valuing that sex could be different and primary in someone like me.

I decided the person could show him/herself what I meant about disdain for T sex issues, so I asked,

“Can you even saywhat I am, what I need? You’ve heard me say it. Can you even say the words?”

I got back a description of how yes, he/she can say it.

“But you didn’t say it,” I said. “Can you say the words?” I waited.

I got segues to things I think were hoped would be perceived as related.

So I persisted. “You still haven’t said what I am, what I need. Can you say what my need is?”

After a pause, it was eeked out, finally spoken, weakly. “You need to be the other sex.”

This was a key person in your inclusion process, so gender-biased my issues could barely be wrenched out. You want me to feel like dirt, that will do it. Please don’t judge me by my appearance.

ONE OF YOUR OFFICES

There have been good things happen there, though it is always offensive when they fail to also include “transsexual.” As far as I can tell, they cannot include “transsexual” in general verbiage, aren’t allowed to say they won’t discriminate against transsexuals, specifically. Advocating, what I was told last year was a stated intention to post your organization’s statement of inclusion (below) on a wall in a public lobby right beside a posting of your non-discrimination statement that excludes the exact same, stated issues, transsexualism. That makes it a statement of exclusion. It took me months and 4 askings before I was finally told they didn’t do it.

Once I was also told I was not to show up at a certain event and mention that you do not allow specific acceptance of transsexualism—which I felt odd because I never offered to attend that event. I believe this attempt, though misguided, was to muzzle me, and is why I published the matter.

LGBTQ+

Also, a couple years ago, I was there, and someone associated with LGBTQ+ talked pleasantly with me—until he referred to me as transgender. I corrected, also pleasantly, “I’m transsexual, not transgender. I need to be myself.” His nose wrinkled rhinencephalically, as if I smelled bad. Diversity of sex and thought were unwelcome, and I was hurt.

MISTREATMENT

I’ve been asking since 2017 to also be included in non-discrimination statements (NDSs) and general verbiage. For this over this last year alone, I’ve been insulted, lied to, and stonewalled. Most trans people are insecure about role or sex, and few transsexuals will stand up against that broad social pressure. If you are not part of related administration, and you have not heard about these problems, it is usually because people who do such things don’t disclose. I ask for understanding. I am transsexual. There is nothing wrong with being transsexual. The problem is in struggling to exclude and not accept.

NON-DISCRIMINATION

Sex is not gender; biology is not culture. That’s a fact, reality. That “gender” includes both is only perspective. If an NDS states it will not discriminate against Christians, then I’m left wondering why—if it is leaving the door open to discrimination of other religions, the absence of any, or if it’s just promoting that religion. Here, if the NDS only refers to concepts stated as about gender change, ideation or expression, then…why? Because they’re promoting the pro-gender / anti-sex perspective I have shown? If you’re specific, a needed change of sex must also be included, so don’t be specific.

Your organization includes “transsexual” only rarely. You’re so sex negative, you don’t even use “sex” in one non-discrimination statement, using “gender” for physical sex, instead, though they are different things; I see another NDS that includes both sex and gender—good—but then gender identity and expression, and not sex terms to balance (Kotula, 2002, Diamond, 2002), which could be avoided.

Discourse is needed, but what if the NDS said something like “…sex (including pregnancy), sex or gender identity, gender expression…” Adding “sex or” there makes it inclusive, doesn’t diminish anyone, includes all. Why would anyone say not to do that? “No, no. Don’t include sex.” When I’ve brought things like this up, I’m told that you’ve looked at it legally, and laws and guidelines don’t say “sex identity”—but—please—stop:

  1. I never asked for “sex identity” to be included. I’m asking to be part of discourse, but I’m asking NOT to use alarming language but rather to use something else that would be more inclusive, such as “sex or gender…” or “sex or,” etc. I’m talking in the blind, here, don’t know you; need discourse, which means back and forth.
  2. There is no law that prevents adding anything else above a legal minimum. You could add T sex issues in there, as well as the gender issues you already have.
  3. You say you “benchmarked” me to other organizations which also exclude transsexualism. That says you won’t include me because others don’t. Since when is that okay to do to any minority? Laws used to say it was okay to exclude black people, gay people, women, Jews, Muslims, Wiccans… Are you really going to say that you refuse to include transsexualism—to actually say something clearly that could relate (not a gender implication)—because some law does not require you must?
  4. Currently, you say you won’t discriminate on the basis of a need to change gender, but you won’t say you won’t on the basis of a need to change sex. Why won’t you say that?

Does compassion for diversity stop at a legal minimum? Are you inclusive of all diversity? Or only those you prefer?

STATEMENT OF INCLUSION REMOVED—AGAIN

And then I notice your wonderful statement you unanimously agreed to in 2018 has been taken down, yet again—seems like for the third time. Who keeps taking it down?

Your unanimous great                         (Screenshot of statement of inclusion was here;

statement (top)…

                                                            removed from here for the organization’s anonymity.)

…got removed again,

for the third time (bottom).

There is conflict within your organization with some people wanting to include transsexualism and some pressing to exclude.

And…all this to hide something that is not even a secret.

COMMITTEE ON INCLUSION

The COI stonewalled me for the last entire year, and in the year prior wrote the misleading letter to your CEO, put up the great statement of inclusion, but then took it back down three times. People such as me are evidently not diversity the COI respects—and when we remember that transgenderism cannot fully integrate while T sexuality is considered not okay, then I think it is true that non-binary diversity is not fully included by the COI. I’m sorry to have to say that, COI, but it’s been two years. I ask the COI to re-consider what it needs to do in this area. Being non-binary, knowing someone who is, being related to someone non-binary…does not make you inclusive of diversity. Cooperating with a paradigm that demands social denial of T sex issues, that perpetually limits T social inclusion, that perpetuates a sex-negative atmosphere in your sphere, that fails to show non-binary people how to succeed…is a practice that distances and limits these minorities in need—the same kind of thing we would never agree to for larger, more recognized minorities.

CONCLUSION

People are so eager to travel the stars and meet aliens from outer space…but we can’t even accept people here on Earth who have a different sexuality, a different genderality. Trans people don’t want to take over the planet or eat your brains. We want to be friends.

I hate to say it, but you are T sex negative:

  • You struggle to exclude T sex issues from general verbiage.
  • The COI promotes a gender ideology and suppresses T sex issues.
  • The need for T sex change is not included in NDS, but it could be with “sex or”—or something like it—which you won’t allow.
  • Your own “inclusion” officials even have trouble saying words that relate to my issues.

The transgender paradigm demands T sex suppression…

  • the need to be a sex, and
  • the needed sexual response of a sex.

…not because of privacy but because of fear of rejection.

Society is at fault. Society creates that fear by in truth not accepting non-binary living. I’ve been in this since 1977, mostly since 1981, as a social worker or in mutual support in doctor’s offices, hospitals, their home, my home, on the streets, in T bars, on jobs…dealing with issues of transition, employment and housing discriminations, family and social integration, finding love in life…and it’s clear that society overall prefers trans people not to be here, and if we must be, then society prefers we be at a distance, not involved in revealing situations, not close—only partially integrated—so we can all say we’re accepting and inclusive of this non-binarism, while at the same time representing them falsely as more binary.

The fix is for society to embrace trans person sexualities, and to do that, especially on the heels of a generation of suppression, T sexualities must be stated—and said to be okay. These things must become okay. If it’s not okay to say, it’s not okay to be.

I’m asking you to include,

  • NDSs: It could be as simple as “sex or” as mentioned, or something else simple that would at least allow room for T sex issues.
  • GENERAL VERBIAGE: Please include “trans” or “trans people” for any trans person, “transsexual” where the topic should refer, or even just spell out the need to be a sex or a needed sexual response. Please stop acting like “transgender” is an umbrella and refers also to sex-we-won’t-say and that “transsexual” shouldn’t be mentioned. The transgender paradigm says “transgender” is an umbrella, but those of us not part of the paradigm disagree—see references above and below.
  • INFORMATION DISSEMINATED: I’m asking for these concepts to be included—not danced around with gender or surgery euphemisms.
  • SOMETHING: You’re smart. If you applied yourself to inclusion, what would you come up with? How well do you include black people, gay people…?  That’s how well you should also include T sex issues, embracing all trans people without hiding part of us, making it clear that our lawful sexuality is okay.

We’re living in a time when our nation’s government actually preaches that some are better than others, where a restrictive angry ideology is valued if it has power, that supports white supremacy, demeans immigrants, that twists law and a populist movement to support the goals of a few, risking the freedoms guaranteed to us in the Constitution. Hopefully Congress will help with this. But these times are lacking in compassion and respect for differentness.

We can and must do better than that.

Signature

Jenna Ware, MSW, LCSW

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Widow of Joseph F. Ware Jr., Dept. Mgr. Engineering Flight Test, Skunk Works, Lockheed (2 Air Force Ones, U-2, SR-71...); former NSA, NSOC, NSGA, Ft. Meade, MD; former forensic psychiatric social worker, MSW, LCSW; pilot, ATP/CFI; co-founder Ware Lab, Virginia Tech; asking for equality for all, including our sexuality; transsexual, 1981; author of "Shadow Life," sharing dangers of hiding trans person sexuality so others don't make the same mistakes I did.

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