Society Knows About but Chooses to Hide T Sex Issues
Why Does This Matter?

Hiding physical sex issues or “sex identity” is a choice society has made—not a truth that sex doesn’t matter.

This page is an example of society intentionally choosing to regard people per gender, making a distinction between gender and physical sex, and then suppressing physical sex. There are many other examples, but the American Psychological Association (APA) is respected, sex-negativity has been complained about for decades, yet they do it, anyway.

This is hurtful to those of us for whom sex issues are vital. Sometimes society begrudgingly admits physical sex and sex identity exist, yet asserts gender over them, which many people complain about.

As transsexual, this overall practice demeans me, also, and says my core issues, of (1) needing to be the other sex and (2) needing a sexual response of the other sex, are offensive. It says I am offensive.

Society Knows About but Chooses to Hide T Sex Issues

Sex and gender are not only two different things, they’re two different KINDS of things.

When we bring T sexuality out of the closet, choose to consider it also, everything falls into place.

EXAMPLE: The APA hides sex issues, which says they’re not okay; but they’re open about hiding them, which says that is okay. Red box insets are excerpts from their Style Guide:

GENDER is feelings, behaviors, attitudes, a social construct.

SEX is biological.

GENDER IDENTITY is a person’s psychological sense of their gender—defined as not sex.

So what about SEX IDENTITY, an identity of physical sex? It relates to transsexualism. Where is the need to be the other sex?

“…gender” inconsistent with birth sex.

Where is the description of people who need to change actual sex, to be the other binary? Even beyond the word “transsexual,” where are the core issues? The need? They’re not there, omitted by a group of psychotherapists who should help us grapple with reality.

Even on that same APA Style page, it says to use “transsexual” if someone claims it, but it doesn’t say WHAT IT IS.

Physical sex is recognized, but the need to be the other sex is omitted, unmentionable—only the need to be the other gender is included: behavior, attitudes, and feelings, a cultural construct, a role in society.

It’s not that “gender” is objectively conflated with sex and that “gender” is used to mean both, as in popular use.

When this knowledgeable institution parses, it’s clear they mean gender when they say gender, and they don’t mean sex when they don’t say sex.

I was a psychotherapist social worker. I’m familiar with this group of psychotherapists. I believe this stance is deference to the minority and social movement which provide a significant monetary base. I think money is at the root of it because on the face of it suppressing life needs is unkind at the very least, more often cruel.

SOCIETY: In this gender supremacist stance, you get to avoid your hated sex-and-gender non-binarism—just as you have through most of history—but you hide people like me, my entire phenomenon.

I know sex can’t yet be changed, a problem I believe medical science will eventually overcome. Until then, transsexuals are still here, with a SEX IDENTITY, physical SEX DYSPHORIA, hurting, and hurting even more that society says it’s wrong to mention.

Why Does This Matter

Because the T gender-not-sex focus erases people like me, for whom the need to be the other biological sex is paramount. It hides my narrative.

Most institutions do that, which says my neurological need since birth to just be female shouldn’t be mentioned, not be a real thing—and, no, you don’t get there with euphemisms like “the surgery,” and certainly not “gender confirmation surgery.”

Social sex denial pleases the larger minority who identify as another gender, who want to downplay their need to be a physical sex (fearing social rejection as nonbinary), but it crushes people like me, shames us as un-includable, unequal, unworthy…having something even psychotherapists don’t want to mention.

It’s deference to that larger, cancel culture minority (transgenders) who demand collusion in social denial of T sex issues.

And when institutions follow that lead, say it must only be about gender, gender identity…treat T sex issues as not okay, they set a standard that says, “This is what we want from you.”

Hate crimes can be enabled in a sex-negative atmosphere. Make something not okay, and—surprise violence—it’s not okay, as reported for the murder of Jerry Paul Smith in Blacksburg, VA, Dee Whigham in Mississippi, and many others. Omitting something on purpose says it’s not okay, is oppression, and when institutional leadership does it, it says, “This is the way we want it, here.”

My doctors don’t even know what I’m about any more and make the greatest offensive language official in charts. People ask me what pronoun to use, of all offensive things, as if the needs of transsexualism are completely gone. Friends, neighbors, family, lawyers…think I likely do not actually even want to be the other physical sex.

It says I’m something I could not have lived with. I would have died in 1981 if forced to live transgender.

I support sex-and-gender non-binarism, also, transgenderism… No one is less or more. All people should be equal, equally valued.

But that must also include people who are about needing to be the other actual sex.

Trans people see sex and gender differently. Please don’t take the needs of a larger minority and paint us all with that same brush.

Posted by:Jenna Ware

Widow of Joseph F. Ware Jr., Dept. Mgr. Engineering Flight Test, Skunk Works, Lockheed (2 Air Force Ones, U-2, SR-71...); former NSA, NSOC, NSGA, Ft. Meade, MD; former forensic psychiatric social worker, MSW, LCSW; pilot, ATP/CFI; co-founder Ware Lab, Virginia Tech; asking for equality for all, including our sexuality; transsexual, 1981; author of "Shadow Life," sharing dangers of hiding trans person sexuality so others don't make the same mistakes I did.

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