Someone says you’re a friend. They act like it. They stand with you. They may be—lying:

Curiosity phase: There is a curiosity phase many people go through, want to get in close and find out what makes us tick. After the curiosity is satisfied, maybe a few months or a few parties, they fade away, taking all your disclosures with them, often passed on to others who are real friends.

Gynandromorphophilia: female, male, shape, love; attraction to someone sexually of one sex and another gender, e.g., characteristics of both sexes such as someone womanly with a penis, transgender. It’s real, as real as being gay or straight or bi. And it goes unnoticed a lot. But society frowns on this, so gynandromorphophiles may experiment with this attraction, then feel guilty for it later, leaving.

To advance a liberal or faux inclusive agenda: This fake friend may purposefully take us around to see other friends, show us off. Then when the point is made, fade away or create a problem that leads you to tell them to leave, then blame it on you that you pushed them away.

Those who lie in wait: I’ve seen it happen over and over, many times. Someone seems like he/she may be a real friend, then after some years pounces with the “informed” insider knowledge of a friend to enlighten us with how we really should be A or B, instead of whatever we think we are. With me, it happens that they later sandbag me and preach that I really should be about gender role, not a need to be the other sex, that I, like Rosa Parks, should stop causing trouble and accept my place. They already know I believe the need to be non-binary is a different thing from needing to be the other binary, but—it’s their beliefs that mean more to them.

Vampires: Some people just want to suck the blood out of you.

Trans people are socially hated, and that’s not going to change while we allow sex-and-gender non-binarism to go unnoticed, not made okay.

Posted by:Jenna Ware

Widow of Joseph F. Ware Jr., Dept. Mgr. Engineering Flight Test, Skunk Works, Lockheed (2 Air Force Ones, U-2, SR-71...); former NSA, NSOC, NSGA, Ft. Meade, MD; former forensic psychiatric social worker, MSW, LCSW; pilot, ATP/CFI; co-founder Ware Lab, Virginia Tech; asking for equality for all, including our sexuality; transsexual, 1981; author of "Shadow Life," sharing dangers of hiding trans person sexuality so others don't make the same mistakes I did.

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