These below tenets were not broadly in use in the 20th century. The message most people heard was about transsexualism (brief history), involving sex reassignment surgery and the need to be the other sex. The “transgenderist” message of Virginia Prince, Ph.D. wasn’t being well received, because it meant “…people like [herself] who have breasts and live full time as a woman, but with no intention of having genital surgery” (Gender Blending, 1997, p. 469). In the 21st century, large numbers of transgenders came out, dwarfed transsexualism, and wanted the message to be about gender, hide the sex aspects, to decrease embarrassment and promote acceptance. (Sex and gender are not the same thing.)
FALSE TENETS OF THE TRANSGENDER COALITION, the transgender paradigm:
- Anything goes. Any variation of sex or gender is included if there is some transition involved, even if just mentally asserted and not physically expressed—including variations most people can’t imagine—which means there is no definition, no limit. Most intentions are not binary.
- You are whatever you say you are, which leaves no room for mistakes, denial, repression, fantasy, related issues, games, or even outright lying to gain favor or access.
- Be vague, unclear. Use euphemisms instead of precise terms. Conflate sex and gender. Because it’s a coalition of different issues/desires—even opposites—specificity is decried and issues are bent so that all may, somehow, fit under the moniker of just one broad, fluctuating “spectrum,” which is also the name of the largest group thereunder: transgender. And because most transgenders fear rejection if their same-sex genitalia is known. Don’t say “I’m female,” say “I’m a woman.” Don’t say “SRS,” which is about physical sex/genital anatomy; say “GRS or GCS,” because they refer to gender surgery, which could be anything.
- Don’t let people ask for details. “Do you still have a penis?” “Is your sexual response as a male or female?” Most transgenders fear rejection if their cis sexual response is known, it would ruin the Tenet 3, and it would point out major differences between groups.
- Let trans radicals slam dissent—don’t decry them—as you “have to stick together,” it’s deniable by leadership, and people give in to intimidation. This lets the most insecure, zealous or hostile influence the direction of the movement.
- Make it all about gender—gender identity, gender expression—because (1) it’s the issue of the largest group involved, transgender (the phenomenon), and (2) it relates to a social role transition of gender for coalition unification. Refer to transsexuals as “transgender with an extra surgery,” falsely implying we’re the same mind set with an extra surgery.
- Downplay physical sex issues and transsexuality. Transsexualism is opposite from transgenderism in sex identity, sex expression, and sexuality/sex response as the other physical sex, which is life or death to many of us, but the paradigm says to play down these differences, even pretend they don’t exist. If someone shares they’re “transsexual,” the next question is, “What’s the difference,” which highlights the fact that transgenderism is not about wanting to change sex.
- Support transsexuals who will say they are transgender. Buy their books, hail them, call them “trail-blazers,” give them money, a spotlight, adoration.
- The intent of the transgender paradigm is to incorporate transsexualism as part of transgenderism, making it all, in the end, just one phenomenon—not even a political movement any more—that focuses on a gender shift in society based on what a person says is in their mind, regardless of how they express or of their hidden sexual identity, genitalia, or sexual response as male or female.
WHAT I BELIEVE
- It is wrong to marginalize people. There are different phenomena out here, and we all need to be able to say with pride who and what we are.
- We are all trans people; we are not all transgender. We can stand together as trans people while retaining our own identities. Why isn’t this a workable view on trans politics? Because it would leave transgenders needing to accept and be open with their sexuality, and they fear rejection like Virginia Prince. Have the strength to be yourself; I’ll stand with you.
- We each need to own our issues. I make it clear in my book how hiding major things about yourself can complicate and even ruin your life. I’m not just talking about saying, “I’m transsexual” or “I’m transgender,” I’m also talking about what those terms mean. Take a simple one: What is your sexuality? It can’t be hidden; that’s denial. It’s revealed in dating, loving, long-term relationships, which we want; in medical issues and examinations; in limiting where we allow ourselves to go in life—and people talk. If we can’t even say our sexuality, we can’t take a job that involves a locker room/showers. And in the hiding, society never has to accept the idea (Covering: The Hidden Assault on Our Civil Rights, Yoshino, 2006).
- It’s good for others to ask questions, including, “Have you had SRS?” My answer is, “Yes.” “What is your sexuality? Do you respond sexually as a male or female?” Mine is female; I’m disgusted at the thought or suggestion mine could be male; it’s quite offensive, even painful, which is why it hurts when people think I’m “transgender.”
- Decry radicals who slam dissent. Slamming people is no way to act. It discredits all of us. We trans ask for acceptance as different, we should do the same for others. Intimidation of researchers chases some of them away, skews results, limits academic freedom. And pressuring people, corporations, TV shows, legislators, etc., into all being of one political view is—well, fascism. Think: If we were all required to be Democrats to the extent we couldn’t even allow the concept of Republicanism to be allowed— It’s mind control, social engineering, subjugation of ideas.
I beg society: Please don’t put your politics on me. Doctors, legislators, researchers, family: Please recognize that I am transsexual, not part of the transgender political coalition, and that my salient issues are opposite the transgender phenomenon (female physical sex needs vs. male).