The below tenets were not broadly in use in the 20th century. The message most people heard was about transsexualism (brief history), involving sex reassignment surgery and the need to be the other sex.
The then “transgenderist” message of Virginia Prince, Ph.D. wasn’t being well received, because it meant, as she said,
“…people like myself who have breasts and live full time as a woman, but with no intention of having genital surgery” (Gender Blending, 1997, p. 469).
In the 21st century, millions of transgenders came out, said all trans people are transgender, and increased social integration by playing down or even omitting the need to be a physical sex, genitalia, and/or sexual response in bed as a male or female—the focus is to be primarily on social gender change, not on the sex issues I just mentioned, yet be accepted as the other physical sex by conflating sex and gender.
The movement is based on (personal or social) denial of physical sex that is nonetheless present, a sexuality that will need to be expressed at some time, and the belief that full inclusion into society in the other gender role can occur while not selling the idea of cross-gender and same-sex living. Self concepts can change depending on context—in society, in bed, during an assault—and self segregations, social discriminations and hate crimes can result from prejudices that society is not facing.
Minimizing the sex issues puts people like me down, hard. I would have died living transgender. My focus is exactly those things that are being treated as something that should not be discussed, mentioned, asked-about.
The paradigm says all trans people are basically the same, about transiting gender, +/- a surgery, so most people in society are thinking this is so, but we’re very different. In general, many of us answer questions and live our life in opposite ways.
ALIENATION: As transsexual living in this world day to day, people assume the below tenets for me as if I’d agree, but I do not. I’m critical of them, same as most people are, but people won’t get close enough to me to see that. Potential friends think I’m something I’m not and stay away. And transgenders largely refuse to be friends because my issue of transsexualism, where I won’t play that down and say I’m transgender as they, can possibly raise the issue of their own sexuality.
All of these conflicts and limited inclusions are because a minority is in denial, fearing shaming, rejection, invalidation in role—which truly happen, but which can only addressed with truth. Not by telling people to avoid the issues.
COMMON FALSE TENETS OF THE PARADIGM, transgender (C) is a political stance one may support regardless of his/her phenomenological status or surgery:
1. Conflation. Conflate sex and gender; the other gender role = the other physical sex. Socially. The rest should not be discussed.
2. Focus on gender, gender identity, gender expression—never physical sex identity or genitalia—because it is the issue of the largest group of trans people (B), and ref #1. Refer to transsexuals as “transgender with an extra surgery,” so it is about gender and surgery, not the sex issues.
3. Avoid or denounce transsexualism. If someone mentions transsexualism, the next question is, “What’s the difference,” which highlights what they’re trying to hide. Say or allow it to be said that “transsexual” is a slur, old fashioned, equated with prostitution or porn, or without dignity. Sometimes we are also threatened, assaulted if we don’t agree. It feels like sexual harassment, a verbal/identity form of genocide; my phenomenon is being pressured to not exist, to morph into the larger group.
4. Worship transsexuals (A) who will say they are transgender (B or C), some pictured above. Buy their books, hail them, call them “trail-blazers,” give them money, a spotlight, adoration—because, by using the same word, they help imply any transgender may also have had “GRS.”
5. You are whatever you say you are, which leaves no room for mistakes, denial, repression, fantasy, related issues, games, or even outright lying to gain favor or access to other sex areas.
6. Use euphemisms. Don’t say “I’m female,” say “I’m a woman.” Don’t say “SRS,” which is about physical sex/genital anatomy; say “GRS or GCS,” because they refer to gender surgery, which could be anything—implying SRS may be attained while not actually saying so. Misrepresentations are common.
7. Let trans radicals slam dissent—don’t decry radicals or the practice of a “dirty tricks department”—as you “have to stick together.” The slamming is deniable by leadership (“I didn’t do it, and I didn’t tell them to do it…”). One can turn the light on to dispel that darkness, as did Alice Dreger, Ph.D., in Galileo’s Middle Finger. I support all trans person (should be the name for C) inclusion, but radicals slamming sex and gender researchers to inhibit dissent or the scientific process is way out of line, and I do decry both the radicals and the process. Even if some idea or research is wrong, let the scientific process continue freely. It will eventually find the truth, which is exactly what you don’t want if you’re trying to hide issues.
8. The intent of the transgender paradigm (C) is to increase social inclusion for transgenders (B) by incorporating transsexualism (A) into transgenderism (B), making it all, in the end, just one phenomenon about gender change—not even a political movement any more—even if we need to be opposite sex from each other. This is a conflict of interest.
Systematic suppression is oppression.
All of us need to be accepted as who we really are.
And it takes the courage to actually be who we are. That includes everyone, including me.