Transgender Paradigm

The Transgender Paradigm
Transgender Paradigm Must Evolve into Accepting Non-binary Sexuality
The Gender-not-sex Paradigm Enables Prejudice
Common False Tenets of the Transgender”Paradigm

The Transgender Paradigm

The transgender paradigm is the way of the gender-not-sex social movement that says to make all trans people as about gender role and to downplay, avoid, or even punish mention of T sex issues as offensive to mention, to use “transgender” as an umbrella term, to use “gender identity” and avoid “sex identity,” to avoid mention of a need to be the other physical sex or to have the other sexual response.

But trans people actually do see sex and gender differently from each other, and we have very different goals, sexualities, and ideologies.

The transgender paradigm shames me as transsexual; “accepting” me as something else is rejection. It says it is even transphobic to ask about it. It says I must be made to seem as about gender with a surgery. What surgery? One that is to be said as about nonspecific gender (GRS).

Suppressing trans person sexualities may make us look like all are about gender role, but that is because of—well—suppressing trans person sexualities.

Transgender Paradigm Must Evolve into Accepting Non-binary Sexuality

The transgender paradigm isn’t a truth revealed; it is a social movement that grew mostly during the 21st century as transgenders came out more, fearful in the face of society’s hatred of sex-and-gender non-binarism. Before that, in the 20th century, it was accepted by most that the need to be the other sex and the need to change gender but not be the other sex were two different things.

But that sabotages all trans people. Full integration cannot occur unless our sexualities are also accepted. There are too many areas of life affected to ignore or disregard the effect of sexuality on life.

The social acceptance and integration of trans people must evolve from hiding our sexualities into accepting and integrating the entire person.

The Gender-not-sex Paradigm Enables Prejudice

The cure, here, is not to go along with that transphobia in society, not to agree to secret ourselves to please prejudiced people—but to assert that T sexuality is okay, to follow in the footsteps of the gay social movement.

A longer view is necessary, or else we perpetuate our own plight, largely on the fringe of society.

Common False Tenets of the Transgender Paradigm

1. Marginalize and minimize T sex issues. Society doesn’t like non-binary sexuality, doesn’t want to hear about it…so to maybe avoid some rejection, agree to hide it as “offensive” or “private.” Problems with this are legion: It demeans non-binary people by cutting down our sexualities; it demeans people for whom cross physical sex and sex response issues are paramount; it’s transphobic.

2. Conflation. Conflate sex and gender; as if the other gender role = the other physical sex. Socially. Even though some 90% of all trans people do not want to be the other sex. The problem is that sex issues, genitalia…are real and in truth cannot be hidden overall in medical settings, relationships, falling in love, having sex, many careers or jobs one may have, many volunteer activities, etc. Physical sex and gender issues may be believed as one, but that sets trans people up for humiliations because society won’t agree when they see it. Instead, they need to be owned and sold as okay, following the gay movement.

3. Focus on gender yet hide sex. Make it about gender identity, gender expression—not physical sex identity or genitalia—because it is what you see when you look at trans people from the outside with our clothes on, is the issue of the largest open group of trans people (B), and ref #1 above. Sex issues should not be discussed. Again, you can’t hide sex issues with integration or even socialization.

4. Avoid or denounce transsexualism. If someone mentions transsexualism, the next question is, “What’s the difference between that and transgenderism,” which highlights what the paradigm is trying to hide: sexuality. Say or allow it to be said that “transsexual” is a slur, old fashioned, equated with prostitution or porn, or medializes trans people as sick, or without dignity. Say even asking if someone is transsexual is transphobic. Sometimes we transsexuals are also threatened or assaulted if we don’t agree. It feels like sexual harassment, a verbal/identity form of genocide; my phenomenon is being pressured to not exist, to morph into the larger group. Refer to transsexuals as “transgender with an extra surgery,” so it is about gender and surgery, not a needed physical sex or sexual response.

5. Worship transsexuals who will say they are transgender. Buy their books, hail them, call them “trail-blazers,” give them money, a spotlight, adoration—because, by using the same word, they help imply any transgender may also have had “the surgery,” referred to as “GRS,” so they can avoid the dreaded “S” word and its impications, “sex,” as in “SRS.”

6. You are whatever you say you are—one is “woman” if declared, “female” if declared, say it’s true if you identify with it—which leaves no room for mistakes, denial, repression, fantasy, related issues, games, or even outright lying to gain favor or access to otherwise denied areas.

7. Use euphemisms or gender terms. Don’t say “I’m female,” say “I’m a woman.” Don’t say “SRS,” which is about physical sex / genital anatomy; say “GRS” or “GCS,” because “gender” surgery can refer to anything gender—implying SRS may be attained while not actually saying so. Misrepresentations are common. Many times I’ve known transgender ladies who asserted “GRS” when what was attained was breast augmentation or nothing.

8. Let trans radicals slam dissent—don’t decry radicals or the practice of a “dirty tricks department”—let them fly Cancel Culture flags—as you “have to stick together.” The slamming is deniable by leadership: “I didn’t do it, and I didn’t tell them to do it…” One can light a candle to dispel that darkness, as did Alice Dreger, Ph.D., in Galileo’s Middle Finger. I support all trans person inclusion, but radicals slamming sex and gender researchers to inhibit dissent, the scientific process, or people who identify otherwise (such as me) is way out of line, and I do decry both the radicals and the process. Even if some idea or research is wrong, let the scientific process continue freely. It will eventually find the truth—such as medical science or astronomy and physics over the blood-letting and Earth-centrism of religious focus during the Dark Ages. And truth is exactly what you don’t want if you’re trying to hide issues.

9. The intent of the transgender paradigm is to increase social inclusion for transgenders by incorporating transsexualism into transgenderism and then hiding them, making it all, in the end, just one phenomenon about gender change, implying that may or may not also mean a desired sex change—not even a political movement any more—even if we need to be opposite sex from each other. This is a conflict of interest.

10. Imply the need to change sex moves with the need to change gender. It usually doesn’t. But this is also used in vague implication and slight of word to vie for the other place in social sex-and-gender binarism—while at the same time vying for acceptance of non-binarism.

Systematic suppression is oppression and transphobic.

All of us need to be accepted as who we really are.

And it takes the courage to actually be who we are.