Social pressure to refer to all trans people as about GENDER, to suppress sex issues, hurts people. Backlash is growing. Describing all as about BIOLOGICAL SEX, to suppress gender issues, would be just as wrong in reverse.

Gender supremacist? Sex supremacist? Prejudiced?
They’re incompatible.

Co-existence doesn’t mean we must agree to one ideology.
Neither should dominate the other.
How this got started.
What T sex issues / sexuality am I talking about?

NOTE:

I’m not “gender critical”; I’m supremacy critical. Both sex and gender are worthy.

I don’t want to take anything away transgenders have socially gained. But others must not be suppressed in their progress.

We can do this.

Many people are feeling the over-reach of gender verbiage, who feel their own sex identity and sexuality are being diminished, from people in general (spoken by JK Rowling), to Maya Forstater, to LGB who feel the same, and to transsexuals who are slammed if they don’t agree to be about gender, instead.

Gender supremacist? Sex supremacist? Prejudiced?

In light of millions of people who say they need to change gender, others who say they need to change sex—in a society that clings to binarism—what should we do?

  1. Refer to all as about “gender” because it’s a non-distinct cultural construct?
  2. Assert “sex” as it’s biological and, so far, immutable?

“You must be like I say; don’t be yourself,” is the cry of prejudice. Is it okay to fight that by asserting the same thing from the other direction?

Why not let people be themselves, not force them into either box?

They’re incompatible.

Religions are incompatible. Yet we must live together, and we try—embracing all with neutral language and respect.

Co-existence doesn’t mean we must agree to one ideology.

Some people draw a comparison between gender supremacy and white supremacy, because gender supremacy—a dominating gender language—hurts people in its attempts to suppress the sexuality of others, and it’s just as ugly to those of us who feel ourselves erased by its sting. We need to BE just as much, also need our narratives known. We are not less because we are about needing to be the other binary, the other physical sex. I believe it’s neurological; a person cannot change it.

Transgenders demand gender-not-sex language—
but they are not the cause.

The cause is society’s prejudice against trans people—transsexuals, too, but mostly against transgenders as society is more prejudiced against wanting to live in another gender role yet not wanting the genitalia of the other sex, so transgenders enforced gender-not-sex language (gender supremacy) hoping it will aid acceptance.

It isn’t working.
People know, and the sexual deception hurts people, diminishes the reputation of transgenderism, and causes arguments that highlight the problem they want to hide.

If you need anything to show you that sex and gender are two different things in society, look at how society shuns T sex and runs headlong for gender—not because they embrace T gender issues, necessarily, but because they so hate T sex issues.

Neither should dominate the other.

Gender-not-sex has gone too far and needs to allow others in society to identify with and be included as sex-relevant beings.

Trans people used to openly own both our sex and gender issues.

Now, society mostly says it must be about gender and not sex.

Sex suppression in general is inspiring backlash, people using biological sex as leverage to regain a sex footing, but do we need another 20 years of maybe sex supremacy, with its gender backlash, to show us that sex and gender are both important?

We should just go to the middle:
Stop hating difference, accept ourselves; own our sex and gender issues; and stop trying to make other people not own theirs.

How this got started.

Marketing for the downtrodden trans person has reached the third-rail status of a sacred minority no compassionate person could refute, even if that means putting other people down in the process.

I was unwittingly behind part of this when I lectured in universities in the 1980s, sharing the emotional horror of being of one sex yet needing so desperately to be of the other sex. It was well meant. And both transgenders and transsexuals generally socially owned sexualities at the time.

But society particularly disliked desired sex-and-gender non-binarism, transgenderism, so when TGs began to open, they, shared similar stories of the pain of incongruence—though about gender / gender role and said it was offensive to mention the physical sex or sexuality that society hated.

They outnumber transsexuals maybe 10 to 1. Society sees us from the outside; we all look the same to them—especially when they don’t want to see sex, and transgenders tell them it’s offensive.

What T sex issues / sexuality am I talking about?

  1. Physical sex, the need to be a physical sex, same or other, and

2. The needed sexual response as a sex—not who you are in bed with but who you are in bed AS, not orientation but response, how you respond.

It’s true biological sex cannot as yet be changed. That is a hell I must live with. But the need is real, and the limit is set by medical science at this stage. Eventually physical sex will be changeable, right down to the chromosomes.

For others, it’s a change in gender role that matters, and that can be real, too.

There exist some people who abuse these concepts for other reasons, but the phenomena are real, and we must not demean people who are different, who we likely do not understand.