If you’ve heard transgender advocates say things like the below, you’ve heard people trying to suppress a smaller, unwanted minority.
Prejudiced social movements repeatedly occur in society, usually based on fear, disgust, or a need for supremacy. Some go on for generations before we decide to reject cruelty and embrace humanity: Black people are less, subhuman…God says so in the Bible; gay people are mentally ill, perverts; women couldn’t be expected to vote properly and belong at home in the kitchen…
You know a social movement is wrong when it prevents people being themselves in equality and dignity.
The transgender paradigm—pushed mostly by society at large, pretending it’s at the behest of transgenders—utilizes transgender fear of rejection from very real hate in society for sex-and-gender non-binarism. Needing connection with people who reject you is not an easy thing, yet the social movement must evolve to include real non-binary sexuality, as an effort to socially deny it prevents full integration and can enable hate crimes.
1.”Saying ‘transsexual’ medicalizes or pathologizes us,” as if victimizing: Transsexuals do need medical intervention, a lot of it. To demean or pressure people not to accept us for that is cruel. Transgenderism and transsexualism have different issues. Don’t adopt issues for yourself that are not yours.
The specious argument #1 is to avoid an assumption of mental illness with “gender” issues, but is more deeply used to suppress transsexualism or the “S” word, “sex,” trans person sex issues. The effort is one of the ways to make the narrative about gender and not sex, based on fear of rejection for non-binary sex-related issues.
Transgenders want to down-talk SRS; transsexuals need it.
This is another example of us being different phenomena. We’re not trying to change your self reference away from “transgender.” We’re not calling you, “transsexual.” We’re trying to also exist with you, as ourselves. It would be easy to do if society would accept transgender non-binary sexuality.
2. “We all change gender, and you did, too, so you are also ‘transgender.’ You just need to accept yourself.” No. That is another specious argument. I’m just not trying to push T sex issues into the closet because society hates them. That is the transgender paradigm. I need to be proud of myself, to own my real issues and have them accepted, included equally as they really are, which are focused on
- the need to be the other sex (female) with
- the needed sexual response of the other sex (female).
“Gender identity” has become an offensive phrase applied to me because that phrase has been used repeatedly to conflate gender with then omit sex. The statements I made are sex statements, not gender statements. You don’t hear them used, because they’re being suppressed. My identity is with sex, “sex identity.” Ideology should not be used to suppress science, and focusing on gender-not-sex is an ideology, a social movement.
All sciences use math, but not all are mathematicians. A physicist is not a sociologist is not a botanist… Phenomena are distinct by significant difference.
Disciplines and people should be referenceable by their primary pursuit, the main goal, what they’re about—and that way, agreeing with Virginia Prince, Ph.D., terms need to distinguish those who need to be the other sex and those who don’t. Sex issues, both being and having, are extremely significant. It isn’t just what we do that matters but also what we would not do. People like me could not live as transgender.
Transgenderism and transsexualism are opposite in the need to be the other sex, sex identity, the needed sexual response (who I am in bed, not who I’m in bed with), how we relate to others in society, how we hope to find love and with whom…
3. “Transgender” is an umbrella term.” I agree with Virginia Prince that it shouldn’t be used that way. There is great and decades-long argument about this. Transgenders outnumber transsexuals some 9 to 1, so they pressure society the most, but the sex differences are meaningful.
“Trans person” or “trans people” actually include all trans people, but society hates sex-and-gender non-binarism, which creates related obfuscation and subterfuge, suppression. If transsexuals are mentioned, it raises the believed-ugly issue of T sex issues, which people don’t want to hear about. It is prejudice.
4. “‘Transsexual’ is just transgender with an extra surgery.” No. That is stated with a gender bias that hides trans person sexuality as if there’s something wrong with it, a demeaning slam to people like me.
It also implies that the need to be the opposite sex, or a needed opposite sexual response, moves with a need to be another gender, but it doesn’t. Sex and gender are intentionally inverse in transgenderism; it is the goal, the way of living…to change gender but not wanting to change sex. It’s not the same thing with an extra surgery; it’s opposite on what is being hidden.
5. “That’s old fashioned.” The sexes are not a matter of fashion, but gender can be. What is “gender” changes between people and cultures, and through time. “Transsexual” says I need to be the other actual sex. The sexes are current and vital to most of the world including most transgenders, who for the most recent generation, have been trying to hide it. Should my need to be the other physical sex not be spoken? Is there something wrong with what I am? I should give up myself and say I’m about gender, instead, or face exclusion, rejection, hostility?
I believe the need from birth to be the other physical sex is neurological, not a matter of a current social movement, will not change with the age, even if suppressed. Pressure from other people to suppress our own needs may affect what we say, but sex needs are still present and opposite in transsexuals.
6. “There are so many variations, where would you draw the line? There’s a spectrum.” There are many variations, more than most people realize because transgenderism plays down much of what it’s about. But differences between those who need to be the other sex, and those who need to be another gender but not the other sex, are still real. You may not be able to see the difference between colors of 5,600 and 5,700 Angstroms, yet red is still not yellow, is still not blue. The colors should not be all called “blue” because they’re embarrassed to admit they don’t want to be red.
7. “You shouldn’t say ‘transsexual’; ‘transsexual’ is a slur” associated with prostitution or pornography. I’ve been told this to my face, they’re on social media… That is demeaning, hurtful, a direct slam. The word is descriptive and says what I am, which is why they want it stopped, as they fear it could raise the question to them, “Do you also want to change sex? Is your sexuality also opposite?” I am not a slur; my term is not a slur. I should be able to say it as a noun as much as any Christian, Jew, genius, teacher, student, carpenter, physicist, friend or neighbor—for to feel otherwise you slam me, and I would slam myself.
8. “But we’ve all agreed.” Obviously not true. That’s a hope, negotiation, marketing, or maybe even denial, the transgender view in advocacy for itself. Transgenders are the largest group, the best funded, but transsexuals exist, also. Transgender radicals slam dissent from public figures, legislators, researchers and corporations—and pressure them to use “gender,” not physical sex references—who often give in and make life harder for us to be ourselves.
9. “We look the same.” Actually, it depends, and other expressions come into it. The difference in needs is reflected in expression over time.
But don’t judge people by their appearance, a book by its cover. Appearing similar on the outside with our clothes on, does not mean similar on the inside, ideationally, neurologically, behaviorally, or sexually.
10. “You think you’re better than us.” I didn’t say that, and you shouldn’t think it; I’m not putting you down, and you shouldn’t put yourself down. We’re just different. No human is worth more than another, and no one should have to suppress her needs so another person can hide hers. Sex issues are simply different from gender issues.
11. “You’re excluding us.” I’m not excluding anyone. I’m adding our sexualities to a paradigm that engages in obfuscation and subterfuge. These terms are descriptive of phenomena. Sex is my issue, not so much gender. Needing to be the opposite actual sex is significant.
12. “Genitals are homologous” (same source or structure). While similar as an early fetus before differentiation, after differentiation, physical sex tissues are very different—a penis certainly is no vagina, and male sexuality is different from female. This difference is vital to people such as I.
In the transgender world, that phrase is sometimes used to marginalize male/female differences as adults, as
13. “What I have shouldn’t matter.” It shouldn’t be a problem, but it sure does matter. It’s life or death to people like me. Tell a straight man he’s got to say he’s gay; tell a gay man he’s got to act straight. SRS is vital to people like me, where transgenders would consider it mutilation.
In society, it shouldn’t matter if my dentist, lawyer, teacher…wants to be male or female. It’s the job that counts.
But one’s needed sex and sexual response matters greatly when it comes to dating, finding love, having sex…and it needing to be socially okay matters in how we often create our own job discrimination, self-segregations, handle group dynamics that involve prejudice, or even enable hate crimes against ourselves.
14. “There are more of us than there are of you.” Believe it or not, I’ve heard this one, too, which belies the basic concept of minority rights and recognition, as if we’ve learned nothing.
A majority thinking something is not right or wrong because of its numbers. It’s wrong if it hurts people.
15. “We have to stand together” for support in the same social movement. As transgender (C), that is a political grouping. We are all trans people, not all transgender. Saying we’re all under the banner of the largest out-of-the-closet group is a conflict of interest for them that suppresses transsexual core issues.
We can stand together as trans people—while also allowing people to be their sexual selves, not suppressing some people so others may be “accepted” in social sexual denial.
16. “If you disagree, you’re transphobic!” No. Transphobia, such as here, is disliking, hating, minimizing or dissing trans person sexualities, which is what all this is about. It is harsh and cruel to label people with a phobia because they disagree—the cry of insecurity or outright pressure to make people stop disagreeing, a technique of radicals.
In my case, I point out that society truly dislikes, hates or is disgusted by T sex issues, which is transphobic, that it’s transphobic for transgenders to cooperate with that anti T sex effort, that sex and gender are different things, that we hurt ourselves if we hide major issues.
17. Physical Threats: I’ve gotten those, too, for existing or sharing my own views—even from people who demand acceptance for their own difference.
I ask for acceptance, inclusion, equality. I ask to be recognized as transsexual, not as transgender. Many human endeavors and identities also incorporate broader aspects of humanity, but in this case, the transgender paradigm is pressuring transsexualism to play down the need to be the other physical sex, use euphemisms such as gender or surgery, and to avoid the idea that transsexual sexual response (as male or female) is opposite that of transgenderism.
All of the above and more are suppression. When systematic or institutional, policy or law, it’s oppression. When non-discrimination statements include transgender core issues and omit transsexual core issues, when campus or social organizations list gender a half dozen times and can’t include physical sex or sexual response, when LGBTQ+ advocates wrinkle their nose at transsexualism, we are made less, and it is cruel.