1.”Saying ‘transsexual’ medicalizes or pathologizes us” as if victimizing: This is the cry of people who (a) want medical intervention for hormones or surgery but who don’t want to be treated as mentally ill, or (b) who just don’t want “transsexual” used as part of a broader effort to make it about gender and not sex, fearing their own rejection if same-sex needs are known. I don’t blame them on the former, in fact, I agree. Gay people aren’t mentally ill for it, and trans people aren’t either. But it’s not the fault of transsexuals, and blaming us, or a word that describes us, is scapegoating, with all the harm that implies. Transsexuals and most transgenders need medical intervention to approach the needed end. For transsexuals, it’s the other sex; and for transgenders, it’s gender. And schemes to suppress the core issues of transsexualism—the the need to be the opposite physical sex and having an opposite sexual response—are part of the culture of secrecy that is integral to making our disparate groups appear as all about gender.
2. “That’s old fashioned.” The sexes are not old fashioned, and “transsexual” says I need to be the other actual sex. The sexes are current and vital to most of the world including most transgenders (B on the chart), who for the most recent generation, have been trying to hide it from muggles. Should my need to be the other physical sex not be spoken? Is there something wrong with me? I should say I’m about gender, instead? I believe the need from birth to be the other physical sex is neurological, not a matter of a current social movement, will not change with the age, even if suppressed. Pressure from other people to suppress our own needs may affect what we say, but sex needs are still present and opposite in transsexuals.
3. “Transsexual is just transgender with an extra surgery.” No, it’s not the same thing with an extra surgery; it’s opposite on what is being hidden. The whole time we need to be the opposite physical sex with an opposite sexual response—two significant differences that denote separate phenomena.
4. “There are so many variations, where would you draw the line? There’s a spectrum.” There are many variations, more than most people realize because transgenderism plays down much of what it’s about. But differences between those who need to be the other sex, and those who need to be another gender but not the other sex, are still real. You may not be able to see the difference between colors of 5,600 and 5,700 Angstroms, yet red is still not yellow, is still not blue. The colors should not be all called “blue” because they’re embarrassed to admit they don’t want to be red.
5. “You shouldn’t say ‘transsexual’; ‘transsexual’ is a slur” associated with prostitution or pornography. I’ve been told this to my face, they’re on social media… That is demeaning, hurtful, a direct slam. The word is descriptive and says what I am, which is why they want it stopped, as they fear it could raise the question to them, “Do you also want to change sex? Is your sexuality also opposite?” I am not a slur; my term is not a slur. I should be able to say it as a noun as much as any Christian, Jew, genius, teacher, student, carpenter, physicist, friend or neighbor—for to feel otherwise you slam me, and I would slam myself.
6. “But we’ve all agreed.” Obviously not true. That’s a hope, negotiation, marketing, or maybe even denial, the transgender view in advocacy for itself. Transgenders (B) are the largest group, the best funded, but we (A) exist, also. Transgender radicals slam dissent from public figures, legislators, researchers and corporations—and pressure them to use “gender,” not physical sex references—who often give in and make life harder for us to be ourselves.
7. “We look the same.” Don’t judge people by their appearance. Appearing similar on the outside with our clothes on, does not mean similar on the inside, ideationally, neurologically, behaviorally, or sexually.
8. “We all change gender.”
The transgender paradigm doesn’t just make it about gender; it also suppresses physical sex issues. For example: One can do math in biology yet be a biologist and not a mathematician—and it would be wrong to pressure the biologist to say she’s “a mathematician with a laboratory,” that she should not be recognized as a biologist.
Phenomena are separated by significant difference, and there are two major differences between transsexuals and transgenders: (a) the need to be the opposite sex from each other, and (b) having an opposite sexual response from each other, as male or female.
Gender is part of my transition, but I’m about something very different; living transgender would have killed me (see Chapter 4). Our physical sex, genital, and sexual response needs are opposite. Many of us live or die, based on this.
9. “You think you’re better than us.” I didn’t say that, and you shouldn’t think it; I’m not putting you down, and you shouldn’t put yourself down. We’re just different. No human is worth more than another, and no one should have to suppress her needs so another person can hide hers. Sex issues are simply different from gender issues.
10. “You’re excluding us.” Being transsexual is not a club. These terms are descriptive of phenomena.
11. “Genitals are homologous” (same source or structure). While similar as an early fetus, before differentiation, after differentiation, physical sex tissues are very different—a penis certainly is no vagina, and male sexuality is different from female. This difference is vital to people such as me (A).
In the transgender (B) world, that phrase is sometimes used to marginalize male/female differences as adults, as “What I have shouldn’t matter.” It shouldn’t be a problem, but it sure does matter. Tell a straight man he’s got to say he’s gay; tell a gay man he’s got to act straight.
12. “There are more of us than there are of you.” Believe it or not, I’ve heard this one, too, which belies the basic concept of minority rights and recognition, as if we’ve learned nothing.
13. “We have to stand together” for support in the same social movement. As transgender (C), that is a political grouping. We are all trans people, not all transgender. Saying we’re all under the banner of the largest out-of-the-closet group is a conflict of interest for them that suppresses transsexual core issues.
14. “If you disagree, you’re transphobic!” No. It is harsh and cruel to label people with a phobia because they disagree—the cry of insecurity or outright pressure to make people stop disagreeing, a technique of radicals. In my case, I point out that sex and gender are different things, that we hurt ourselves if we hide major issues. Only in owning ourselves can society begin to adjust to what we really are. Only then can real social inclusion and acceptance be eventually gained. This is the lesson of my life.
15. Physical Threats: I’ve gotten those, too, for existing or sharing my own views—even from people who demand acceptance for their own difference.
I ask for acceptance, inclusion, equality. I ask to be recognized as transsexual, not as transgender. Many human endeavors and identities also incorporate broader aspects of humanity, but in this case, the transgender paradigm is pressuring transsexualism to play down the need to be the other physical sex, use euphemisms such as gender or surgery, and to avoid the idea that transsexual sexual response (as male or female) is opposite that of transgenderism.
All of the above and more are suppression. When systematic or institutional, policy or law, it’s oppression. When non-discrimination statements include transgender core issues and omit transsexual core issues, when campus or social organizations list gender a half dozen times and can’t include physical sex or sexual response, when LGBTQ+ advocates wrinkle their nose at transsexualism, we are made less, and it is cruel.