Physical sex is biological, anatomical. “Gender” is a social construct, a derivative of characteristics common to or resulting from sexes. Identity is how a person identifies, whether sex or gender. Resistance is not futile.

Sex and Gender Recognized as Two Different Things
Why Does This Matter
DEFINITIONS of Sex and Gender
Sex Identity vs. Gender Identity
Sex Orientation vs. Gender Orientation
Why do so Many People Insist on Sex-and-Gender Conflation?

Sex and Gender Recognized as Two Different Things

Usually the American Psychological Association dances around this—people don’t like to stand up to the gender-focused transgender paradigm—but sometimes the APA recognizes sex and gender as two different things. Sex and gender as two different things is also recognized by Virginia Tech, as it should be by a research institution. The statement has social movement detractors per the transgender paradigm, so this statement has been put up 5 times and taken down 4, by my most recent count. But it was in 2018 a unanimous declaration by VT Governance, the Commission on Equal Opportunity and Diversity, so it’s usually up, as a result of my advocating for T sex issues inclusion beginning 2017.

And if you look more closely at phenomena, you see that trans people actually do treat sex and gender as two different things in several ways, with different, even opposite, goals, sexualities, and ideologies (see below) which are being suppressed as offensive. Phenomena are distinct by significant difference, and differences here are major, such as needing to be the opposite sex from each other and having an opposite sexual response need.

For this page, just know that…

  • Sex and Gender are two different things, even two different kinds of things;
  • That a couple million people in the U.S. want to change gender but not be the other sex (transgender) shows this, or at least that transgender people treat them as two different things;
  • Even if a continuum of sex/gender is asserted, just moving on a continuum, the common practice of stopping transition before a certain thing (genitalia) shows they are regarded as different.

…and that gender is promoted, where physical sex is suppressed.

Why Does This Matter

Because the need to be the other physical sex is a real neurological condition, and it’s still here—hurting all the more because it’s not okay to have.

Because the T gender-not-sex focus erases people like me, for whom the need to be the other biological sex is paramount, however medically impossible, as of yet. It hides my narrative. It crushes people like me, shames us as un-includable, unequal, unworthy…having something even psychotherapists don’t want to mention.

It’s deference to that larger, cancel culture minority (transgenders) who demand collusion in social denial of T sex issues. And when institutions follow that sex-negative lead, they set a standard that says, “This is what we want from you.”

My doctors don’t even know what I’m about any more and make the greatest offensive language official in charts. People ask me what pronoun to use, of all offensive things. Friends, neighbors, family, lawyers…think I likely do not actually even want to be the other physical sex.

It says I’m something I could not have lived with. I would have died in 1981 if forced to live transgender.

DEFINITIONS of Sex and Gender

SEX: Physical sex goes to the ability of the species to reproduce; biology; primary sex characteristics; chromosomes, reproductive organs, genitalia, and a system that leads to reproduction; male or female. Changing characteristics that are common to / resultant from / or secondary to a sex does not partially change a sex, as one may be even a fertile member of a sex while having secondary sex characteristics of the other sex; changing secondary sex characteristics, rather, can help one appear more as the other sex or gender. “Secondary sex characteristics” do not denote the sexes; they connote them. Where sex and gender are inverse in trans people, I believe with Virginia Prince that for us “sex” does not include “man” or “woman,” “masculine” or “feminine,” which work better as gender terms. As of yet, biologic sex cannot be changed, but it can be legally, socially, and genitally in form and function.

GENDER: A social construct, a role in society, a conception, an idea, a perspective on how to group things; varies with culture and through time; masculinity or femininity; manly or womanly; sometimes man or woman. Where in trans people sex and gender are inverse, I believe with Virginia Prince that “gender” does not include “male” or “female,” which are physical sex terms. Gender is often used as a euphemism for physical sex, but the differences are made clear with transgenderism where, for example, a male may womanize yet desire and keep male genitalia, sexually respond as male. Gender can be changed as it’s a social role, or masculinity or femininity, and can be affected by attire, hormones and surgeries.

Sex Identity vs. Gender Identity

Where sex and gender are two different things, “sex identity” and “gender identity” are two different things (Milton Diamond, 2002).

  • Sex Identity: an identity of physical sex; “I am or need to be male or female.”
  • Gender Identity: an identity of gender; “I am or need to be man or woman.”

The assertion that both are covered under “gender identity” is an assertion of conflated sex-and-gender binarism and is a mis-understanding of what most trans people are all about. It is also a tenet of the transgender paradigm, playing up to that binaristic social gender role grouping, while at the same time playing down sex issues.

Transsexualism is a need to be that other binary, but transgenderism is a need to be non-binary, of one gender and yet not the other sex.

Sex Orientation vs. Gender Orientation

Where sex and gender are two different things, “sex orientation” and “gender orientation” are two different things.

  • Sex Orientation: What sex you’re into; “I am attracted to females.”
  • Gender Orientation: What gender you’re into; “I am attracted to women.”

This is not a light distinction. In transgenderism, where people want to change gender but not sex, as in someone with a gender identity of “woman” yet who still likes and wants to keep her penis, these distinctions become important in both love and sex. There are people who are specifically attracted to this feminine gender yet male sexuality: gynandromorphophilia, a gender orientation of women yet a sex orientation of male.

This needs to be an okay thing to be and to say.

If society is ever to accept and include transgender sex-and-gender non-binarism, we must also accept people who are attracted to them.

Why do so Many People Insist on Sex-and-Gender Conflation?

That is as easy as 1, 2, 3:

1. Society, people at large, do not like sex-and-gender non-binarism, are offended by it, and seek to hide T sex issues by focusing on gender and hiding T sex.

2. Transgenders know that people at large are offended at their sex-and-gender non-binarism, and so they assert society must focus on gender and not sex issues, in an effort to reduce rejection.

3. Society comes back, disowns their own hatred of non-binarism, and claims they are being accommodating to transgenders.


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