Physical sex is biological, anatomical. “Gender” is a social construct, a derivative of characteristics common to or resulting from sexes. Identity is how a person identifies, whether sex or gender. Resistance is not futile.

Society Knows About but Chooses to Hide T Sex Issues
Why Does This Matter?

Bringing Sex Out of the Closet
Transgenders Actually Do Treat Sex and Gender as Different Things
Sex Identity vs. Gender Identity
Sex Orientation vs. Gender Orientation
Why do so Many People Insist on Sex-and-Gender Conflation?

Society Knows About but Chooses to Hide T Sex Issues

I break down and show a distinct recognition of physical sex and also of gender as two different things by the American Psychological Association, here—then show how they promote gender and gender identity for trans people, while suppressing physical sex and sex identity. Virginia Tech does the same thing—and these days most institutions do that: promote T gender and suppress T sex, indicating it should not be mentioned, is not okay to say or be, which emboldens prejudiced people who are ready to agree and can enable hate crimes.

That info is significant and revealing.

For this page, just know that sex and gender are recognized as two different things—even two different KINDS of things—and that gender is promoted, where physical sex is suppressed.

Why Does This Matter

Because the need to be the other physical sex is a real neurological condition, and it’s still here—hurting all the more because it’s not okay to have.

Because the T gender-not-sex focus erases people like me, for whom the need to be the other biological sex is paramount, however medically impossible, as of yet. It hides my narrative. It crushes people like me, shames us as un-includable, unequal, unworthy…having something even psychotherapists don’t want to mention.

It’s deference to that larger, cancel culture minority (transgenders) who demand collusion in social denial of T sex issues. And when institutions follow that sex-negative lead, they set a standard that says, “This is what we want from you.”

My doctors don’t even know what I’m about any more and make the greatest offensive language official in charts. People ask me what pronoun to use, of all offensive things. Friends, neighbors, family, lawyers…think I likely do not actually even want to be the other physical sex.

It says I’m something I could not have lived with. I would have died in 1981 if forced to live transgender.

Bringing Sex Out of the Closet

Transgenders Actually Do Treat Sex and Gender as Different Things

Most people do not want to understand that transgender people actually treat sex and gender as two different things—a matter of non-binarism that is okay and should be respected, not hidden as offensive. Physical sex is a real thing, and so is gender/gender role.

Differential treatment of sex and gender is seen in life choices that are made:

AS SEPARATE THINGS: When millions of people change gender but do not want to also be the other actual sex, they are two different things, or at least they’re being treated as two different things. (If someone does not want the genitalia of the other sex, they do not want to actually be the other sex.)

CONFLATED ON A CONTINUUM: When millions of people move thereon yet stop before a certain point, there are two different things involved, or at least they’re being treated as two different things. (Here there is a false conflation, see SEX and GENDER below.)

IN WHAT IS OKAY TO SAY: Asserting that gender can be discussed and sex issues can’t, or that “gender” should be stressed and the physical sex someone needs mustn’t be, indicates they are two different things, or at least they’re being treated as two different things.

IDENTITY AND EXPRESSION: A person will over time tend to express how they really feel inside, regardless of verbal assertions.

We should be able to talk about these things, to research and teach them. Being ourselves is vital and can only be found in truth.

See my Letter to the Editor of a scientific journal here.

Don’t be swayed by social ideology. Put on your scientific hat:

DEFINITIONS of Sex and Gender

SEX: Physical sex goes to the ability of the species to reproduce; biology; primary sex characteristics; chromosomes, reproductive organs, genitalia, and a system that leads to reproduction; male or female. Changing characteristics that are common to / resultant from / or secondary to a sex does not partially change a sex, as one may be even a fertile member of a sex while having secondary sex characteristics of the other sex; changing secondary sex characteristics, rather, can help one appear more as the other sex or gender. “Secondary sex characteristics” do not denote the sexes; they connote them. Where sex and gender are inverse in trans people, I believe with Virginia Prince that for us “sex” does not include “man” or “woman,” “masculine” or “feminine,” which work better as gender terms. As of yet, biologic sex cannot be changed, but it can be legally, socially, and genitally in form and function.

GENDER: A social construct, a role in society, a conception, an idea, a perspective on how to group things; varies with culture and through time; masculinity or femininity; manly or womanly; sometimes man or woman. Where in trans people sex and gender are inverse, I believe with Virginia Prince that “gender” does not include “male” or “female,” which are physical sex terms. Gender is often used as a euphemism for physical sex, but the differences are made clear with transgenderism where, for example, a male may womanize yet desire and keep male genitalia, sexually respond as male. Gender can be changed as it’s a social role, or masculinity or femininity, and can be affected by attire, hormones and surgeries.

Sex Identity vs. Gender Identity

Where sex and gender are two different things, “sex identity” and “gender identity” are two different things (Milton Diamond, 2002).

  • Sex Identity: an identity of physical sex; “I am or need to be male or female.”
  • Gender Identity: an identity of gender; “I am or need to be man or woman.”

The assertion that both are covered under “gender identity” is an assertion of conflated sex-and-gender binarism and is a mis-understanding of what most trans people are all about. It is also a tenet of the transgender paradigm, playing up to that binaristic social gender role grouping, while at the same time playing down sex issues.

Transsexualism is a need to be that other binary, but transgenderism is a need to be non-binary, of one gender and yet not the other sex.

Sex Orientation vs. Gender Orientation

Where sex and gender are two different things, “sex orientation” and “gender orientation” are two different things.

  • Sex Orientation: What sex you’re into; “I am attracted to females.”
  • Gender Orientation: What gender you’re into; “I am attracted to women.”

This is not a light distinction. In transgenderism, where people want to change gender but not sex, as in someone with a gender identity of “woman” yet who still likes and wants to keep her penis, these distinctions become important in both love and sex. There are people who are specifically attracted to this feminine gender yet male sexuality: gynandromorphophilia, a gender orientation of women yet a sex orientation of male.

This needs to be an okay thing to be and to say.

If society is ever to accept and include transgender sex-and-gender non-binarism, we must also accept people who are attracted to them.

Why do so Many People Insist on Sex-and-Gender Conflation?

That is as easy as 1, 2, 3:

1. Society, people at large, do not like sex-and-gender non-binarism, are offended by it, and seek to hide T sex issues by focusing on gender and hiding T sex.

2. Transgenders know that people at large are offended at their sex-and-gender non-binarism, and so they assert society must focus on gender and not sex issues, in an effort to reduce rejection.

3. Society comes back, disowns their own hatred of non-binarism, and claims they are being accommodating to transgenders.


In minimizing trans person sex issues (the need to be a sex and the needed sexual response of a sex), both trans people and society disrespect trans people in general and are transphobic.

The transgender paradigm needs to evolve, to begin to embrace what it’s really doing, much as Kenji Yoshino shared in his marvelous book Covering: The Hidden Assault on Our Civil Rights (2006).

In order for people to accept us as we truly are, we need to BE who we truly are. Transgenders need to embrace the concept with society of being the other gender and keeping the same sex and sexuality. “Yes, I’m a woman and I have a penis. I am a woman with male sexuality…”

Transgender-focused social movement leaders write books to please a buying base and marginalize the truth of this, which hurts all of us, leaves main-stream transgenders alone when facing family, friends, co-workers and maligns transsexuals, like me, erasing the narrative of our sexually opposite issues.


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