Sex and Gender shown as two different things; Jenna Ware shown challenging an oppressive paradigm.
Physical, biological sex is in the body. “Gender” is a social construct, a conception, a derivative of characteristics common to or resulting from sexes. Identity is in the mind for both sex and gender. Resistance is not futile.

Two Different Perspectives
Transgenders Treat Sex and Gender as Different Things

…..Sex vs. Gender
…..Sex Identity vs. Gender Identity
…..Sex Orientation vs. Gender Orientation
Why do so Many People Insist on Sex-and-Gender Conflation?

Two Different Perspectives

The FIRST PERSPECTIVE is the transgender paradigm: sex and gender as all part of gender role in society. Because society hates sex-and-gender non-binarism, the paradigm says to hide T sex issues and say that all trans people are under the “transgender” umbrella. This cooperates with prejudice, demeans all trans people as with an unmentionable sexuality which is even stated outright as offensive.

The SECOND PERSPECTIVE was actually taught to me by transgenders before the current gender-not-sex social movement: sex and gender are two different things—correlated in most people, but inversely correlated in transgenderism where the desire is to be of another gender but not of the other sex. Their lives demonstrate the validity of this. Acceptance of both does not cooperate with prejudice. Recognizing and valuing all people with their sexuality is possible when we don’t try to hide it or shame them for it.

I cannot go along with the former because I’m very aware that physical sex is biological (as below) and gender role is a social construct of characteristics and expectations. They are two different things, and trans people change them differentially—notably, I could never live as transgender. Transsexualism is a different phenomenon. I believe the need to be the other actual sex, with a needed opposite sex response, is neurological. The transgender paradigm demeans and shames me, saying my core issues should not be mentioned as offensive. Planned Parenthood even says it’s transphobic to ask.

Where other people are lauded for trying to be themselves even while hiding their sexuality, I’m expected to give up myself, hide my core issues, and be someone else.

That desire to avoid T sex issues is so strong, so hated in society, I’ve even had physicians wrinkle their nose up at me for saying what I just did.

Transgenders Treat Sex and Gender as Different Things

In the simplest sense:

When millions of people change some things but not another thing, those are two different things, or at least they’re being treated as two different things.

If someone does not want the genitalia of the other sex, then it is not desired to actually be the other sex.

A person will over time tend to express how they really feel inside, regardless of verbal assertions.

We should be able to talk about these things, to research and teach them. Being ourselves is vital and can only be found in truth.

See my Letter to the Editor of a scientific journal here.

Don’t be swayed by social ideology. Put on your scientific hat:

Sex and Gender

SEX: Physical sex goes to the ability of the species to reproduce; biology; primary sex characteristics; chromosomes, reproductive organs, genitalia, and a system that leads to reproduction; male or female. Changing characteristics that are common to / resultant from / or secondary to a sex does not partially change a sex, as one may be even a fertile member of a sex while having secondary sex characteristics of the other sex; changing secondary sex characteristics, rather, can help one appear more as the other sex or gender. “Secondary sex characteristics” do not denote the sexes; they connote them. Where sex and gender are inverse in trans people, I believe with Virginia Prince that for us “sex” does not include “man” or “woman,” “masculine” or “feminine,” which work better as gender terms. As of yet, biologic sex cannot be changed, but it can be legally, socially, and genitally in form and function.

GENDER: A social construct, a role in society, a conception, an idea, a perspective on how to group things; varies with culture and through time; masculinity or femininity; manly or womanly; sometimes man or woman. Where in trans people sex and gender are inverse, I believe with Virginia Prince that “gender” does not include “male” or “female,” which are physical sex terms. Gender is often used as a euphemism for physical sex, but the differences are made clear with transgenderism where, for example, a male may womanize yet desire and keep male genitalia, sexually respond as male. Gender can be changed as it’s a social role, or masculinity or femininity, and can be affected by attire, hormones and surgeries.

Sex Identity vs. Gender Identity

Where sex and gender are two different things, “sex identity” and “gender identity” are two different things (Milton Diamond, 2002).

  • Sex Identity: an identity of physical sex; “I am or need to be male or female.”
  • Gender Identity: an identity of gender; “I am or need to be man or woman.”

The assertion that both are covered under “gender identity” is an assertion of conflated sex-and-gender binarism and is a mis-understanding of what most trans people are all about. It is also a tenet of the transgender paradigm, playing up to that binaristic social gender role grouping, while at the same time playing down sex issues.

Transsexualism is a need to be that other binary, but transgenderism is a need to be non-binary, of one gender and yet not the other sex.

Sex Orientation vs. Gender Orientation

Where sex and gender are two different things, “sex orientation” and “gender orientation” are two different things.

  • Sex Orientation: What sex you’re into; “I am attracted to females.”
  • Gender Orientation: What gender you’re into; “I am attracted to women.”

This is not a light distinction. In transgenderism, where people want to change gender but not sex, as in someone with a gender identity of “woman” yet who still likes and wants to keep her penis, these distinctions become important in both love and sex. There are people who are specifically attracted to this feminine gender yet male sexuality: gynandromorphophilia, a gender orientation of women yet a sex orientation of male.

This needs to be an okay thing to be and to say.

If society is ever to accept and include transgender sex-and-gender non-binarism, we must also accept people who are attracted to them.

Why do so Many People Insist on Sex-and-Gender Conflation?

That is as easy as 1, 2, 3:

1. Society, people at large, do not like sex-and-gender non-binarism, are offended by it, and seek to hide T sex issues by focusing on gender and hiding T sex.

2. Transgenders know that people at large are offended at their sex-and-gender non-binarism, and so they assert society must focus on gender and not sex issues, in an effort to reduce rejection.

3. Society comes back, disowns their own hatred of non-binarism, and claims they are being accommodating to transgenders.


In minimizing trans person sex issues (the need to be a sex and the needed sexual response of a sex), both trans people and society disrespect trans people in general and are transphobic.

The transgender paradigm needs to evolve, to begin to embrace what it’s really doing, much as Kenji Yoshino shared in his marvelous book Covering: The Hidden Assault on Our Civil Rights (2006).

In order for people to accept us as we truly are, we need to BE who we truly are. Transgenders need to embrace the concept with society of being the other gender and keeping the same sex and sexuality. “Yes, I’m a woman and I have a penis. I am a woman with male sexuality…”

Transgender-focused social movement leaders write books to please a buying base and marginalize the truth of this, which hurts all of us, leaves main-stream transgenders alone when facing family, friends, co-workers and maligns transsexuals, like me, erasing the narrative of our sexually opposite issues.


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